There are times when you will need to move on, especially if your crush is off the market.
It will be hard, at first, but with time and persistence, you will be able to cure yourself of the person you’ve admired from afar.
No matter what, you will need to adjust your mindset. Here’s how to forget your crush and peacefully continue living like nothing ever happened.
Admit that you have a crush
The first step is always about realization. When you realize he may not have the same feelings for you as you do for him, it will be easier to admit that you have a crush.
It can be difficult, but you’ll be amazed how much this makes a difference. Liken it to sucking out the venom from a snake bite. It’s definitely worth a try.
Much like ripping a band-aid off of a healing cut, admitting you have a crush begins your healing process. Your heart is resilient…it will recover no matter what.
Accept your circumstances
Accepting your situation is the second part of your healing process. You’ve seen that the circumstances surrounding your crush have probably been less than ideal and you need to move on.
Perhaps your crush wasn’t as compatible as you thought…or maybe you found out he’s married and off the market. Either way, signs have manifested that you need to forget about him.
Stubbornness is the enemy. You can’t refuse to give up your crush and then live in denial. It will cause you trouble further along.
You need to accept your circumstances if you are going to move on with your life. Eventually, you will be glad that your crush didn’t evolve into something more serious.
Don’t take things personally
In this situation, it’s important to not internalize anything that you face. Just because he isn’t into you doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you.
You’re still the same, wonderful girl that you were before you began your crush. You didn’t do anything wrong and there is someone out there that will reciprocate your feelings on your terms.
A guy can’t control his feelings no more than you can. If you reverse the roles and look at it from your crush’s perspective, you will understand his situation.
Again, don’t take it personally. An unrequited crush is not a personal indictment. It will be hard but you will move on. Don’t give up on yourself in the meantime.
Be honest with yourself
Be upfront with yourself about your feelings and how your crush has affected you, whether positively or negatively. You need to look at things honestly, no matter how much it hurts.
Once you see things clearly with your own eyes, it will become easier to process and much easier to heal.
Nothing is worse than denial. Denial leads to serious consequences. You don’t want to become the girl living out in a fantasy world.
When you lose touch with reality, you lose touch with yourself and you are much too important to ruin your life over an unrequited crush.
Dwelling on it is not productive
Is there someone close to you who can keep you from dwelling on the fact that you won’t “get your man”?
Friends are a great resource when it comes to helping you forget your problems and heartbreaks. Distraction is a great technique to help you when you’re moving on, and who better to help you than your best friend?
It can involve anything, from sharing a pint of ice cream, to having a night out on the town. When your mind is far away from your troubles, it will be easier to erase them from your memory, especially in regards to your unrequited crush. That’s what friends are for, isn’t it?
Dwelling on a negative situation is never healthy. You will become depressed and land yourself in a rut that you’ll be unable to get out of.
So, go out with your friends, enjoy a few drinks and dance the night away! Your so-called crush will become a distant memory.
In addition, abandon all hopes that he will change his feelings for you. Holding out on hope will never give you that happy ending, so you need to be prepared to let go.
Pipe dreams are called pipe dreams for a reason. Over time, you will feel better.
Anger is never healthy
There’s no need to be angry at your crush for not thinking of you the same way. It’s counter-productive to your healing process.
Instead, you need to make sure that your emotions stay stable and calm. Your head will remain clear and you will navigate your path with more ease than if it were clouded with anger.
Remember, a human cannot control who he/she likes. There’s no use in getting angry because he doesn’t return your feelings.
It’s not a valid reason for anything. Just let it go and move on. No need to succumb to any volatile emotions.
Reflections of me
Now that your crush is ending, why not take some me time and reflect upon yourself?
Don’t ask yourself what could have been or what you did. It’s normal to want to reflect on everything that happened and all of your interactions with your crush.
Just reflect for a little while, there’s no need for you to dwell on it for days.
Me time is incredibly important. It’s a great time to get to know yourself again. Also, with me time comes healing. Relax and reflect.
Avoid thinking about him/her
He isn’t worth your time anymore. Don’t let him dominate your thoughts. You must avoid thinking about him at all costs because it’s counter-productive.
Try new hobbies. Talk to your friends and hang out with them. Begin doing yoga. Any time you spend in action is time clearing your mind of the one who got away.
The key is to keep busy so that you won’t be lost in thought. It will be easier for you to get over him if he’s not on your mind.
Keep your distance
While you are getting over your crush, putting distance in between you two is a great idea. Out of sight, out of mind, right?
You obviously won’t be able to avoid him completely. There are always chance meetings that will occur from time to time.
While it’s hard, you can try to make yourself less available and focus on more important things in your life.
If he doesn’t understand, explain that you need some time on your own right now.
You can continue to be friendly and civil, after all, on some level you were friends.
Give yourself time
Getting over your crush is a difficult and time-consuming process. Don’t expect to be over him so quickly. You need time to be sad.
Everyone deals with situations differently, and it may take you longer than it may take others to heal. That’s okay. Take all the time you need.
While you don’t want to waste time dwelling on the situation, don’t expect to be “back to normal” so quickly. It’s perfectly natural to grieve the relationship that never was.
Breathe. Take your time. Heal.
Getting over a crush will never be easy. At the same time, it’s not impossible. While you are still hurting, it will eventually feel better.
By taking your time, keeping your distance, and being true to yourself, you will return to your former self.
Remember to take time for yourself, try something new, and lean on your friends if you need to.
An unrequited crush is not a death sentence. You will go on. Believe in yourself. There is someone out there who will love and appreciate you.