On sexVille today, we continue our series on why foreplay means so much to women, in fact, much more than it means to men.
As it was stated last week, sex involves getting an erection for men but for women, the careful and gentle exploration of her erogenous zones could actually mean much more.
It’s particularly important for women to have successful foreplay because it takes a woman a longer time than a man to get up to the level of arousal needed to orgasm.
Let us, therefore, look at the importance of foreplay in lovemaking, especially for a woman.
Foreplay and the Clitoris
Foreplay helps the clitoris fulfill its “O” so important role. The clitoris has the same characteristics as the penis because blood flows into the clitoris, and in order for a woman to have an orgasm, there must be lubrication in the vagina, but also the clitoris must get erect. What this means is that stimulation is the key to achieving pleasure.
A woman especially, needs emotional assurance that the man she’s about to have sex with really wants to be with her. The time and attention given during foreplay can communicate that message in such a way that tells her she is desired and loved.
Don’t zone out
Many couples are embarrassed to ask their partner to stimulate erogenous zones that are very pleasurable but can be considered taboo. The nipples, the anus, the back of the neck, all have nerve endings. So don’t be shy. The only shame when it comes to foreplay is a missed opportunity for pleasure.
Foreplay keep partners connected physically and emotionally
Quickies certainly have their time and place, but couples who continuously skip foreplay are passing up a great way to get emotionally and physically warmed up for sex. Physiologically, experts agree that foreplay is an important part of sexual health. In fact, an Australian study found that majority of women are more aroused by the idea of foreplay than sex itself.
Foreplay is really about building an emotional connection and getting some excitement going. Kissing is an important part of foreplay to help stimulate all of those physical and emotional responses.
Foreplay makes sex more enjoyable for the woman
When a woman’s body becomes aroused, the muscles actually pull the uterus up a little bit, and it makes more room in the vagina. This process, called vaginal tenting, creates more space, which makes sex more comfortable and more pleasurable. If this doesn’t happen, sex can become more uncomfortable.
Include foreplay in your sexual routine
There is no good or bad method of foreplay, and you don’t have to spend hours cuddling, stroking, and kissing before you can move on to sex. A few minutes of foreplay may be all you need.
In reality, foreplay should last at least 10 minutes to give people’s bodies enough time to warm up. What’s important is to focus on the stomach and inner thighs and breasts and kissing, but not to dive in too quickly to the genitals.